Sometimes I see women without children -makeup perfectly applied, hair expertly styled, manicured toes, dressed stylishly with coordinating accessories- and I envy them. I remember when I was once stylish and well put together, but being a 'well put together mom' feels like an oxymoron now. If I can get out the door with my baby wearing something clean and my own teeth brushed, I feel like I've accomplished something. Much as I want to spend an hour (perhaps two?) getting ready each morning and look impeccable when I leave my home, with a baby, it's really not possible (not to mention a bout of morning sickness to add to my woes).
BUT.
That DOES NOT mean that I, NOR YOU, need to be a frumpy mom.
Frumpy Momˈfrəm-pē ˈməm: Someone who uses the excuse of being a busy mother to justify lazy and poorly put together outfits. Some examples include 'mom jeans', sweats with flip flops, and the eternal ponytail.
Fortunately, keeping yourself away from being a frumpy mom doesn't have to take hours to do! In fact, while you may never be quite as stylish and fashionable as you were as a single 20's something, you CAN maintain style without compromising your limited time.
Frumpy Mom
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Chic Mom
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Flip Flops
You throw on any old pair because they are comfortable and
easy
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Flats
As easy and comfortable to wear as flip flops, a pair of
flats can make your outfit look more thought out (even if it wasn’t!)
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Pony Tails
Yes, they are easy to do- but don’t show any real style
(though it is better than not doing
anything with your hair…)
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Buns
Use a few bobby pins or an extra pony tail holder to
transform your pony tail into a bun. Only a few seconds longer to get ready,
but it will make a world of difference in how you feel looking into the
mirror.
Hats
A bolo or wide floppy brimmed hat are easy ways to cover
your ridiculous hair and, rather than take away from your style, ADD to your
suave-ness.
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T-shirt and Jeans
It’s a classic- and can look amazing- but too often, we
moms (I’m guilty, too!) wear any old shirt and jeans KNOWING it does nothing
for your figure
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Hanging Necklace
and Sweater
Add a light sweater and a long necklace to your t-shirt
and jeans and suddenly, you have an adorable coordinated outfit. With minimal
effort!
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Sweats/Pajamas
Eeek! You’ll only feel comfortable as Wal Mart past
midnight in something like this….
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Maxi Skirt/Dress
So, play it up in a maxi skirt or dress instead! Just as
comfortable (if not MORE comfy) than your jammies, you can do all of your mom
duties in a maxi dress but look perfectly stylish the whole time.
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Shapeless Dresses
The lack of shape makes them comfy to wear and easy to
pull on, but trust me: Doing you NO favors. Instead?
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Long Necklace and
Mini Belt
Throw on the shapeless dress- but add a long necklace to
draw the eye up and a mini belt around your natural waist to break up the
dress and give you’re a more slender figure.
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No Makeup?
We’ve all done it. Perhaps more than we’d like to admit.
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The Basics
The basic-basics take less than 30 seconds but absolutely
changes the way you look and feel.
*apply blush lightly to cheekbones and then brush over
eyelids
*one light, swift coating of mascara on the top lashes
only
*lip gloss
Will it look as amazing as a fully done face of makeup?
No. But is it a vast improvement over nothing? Hands down.
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NOTHING to Wear!
This is my biggest challenge personally. I wake up, have a
crazy morning, need to run out the door, and have just no idea of what to
wear.
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Treat Yourself Like
a Kid
How often have you set out clothing for your child for the
next day? Or set together outfits for vacation all read to go? Maybe even in
a Ziploc bag? Make your OWN life easier- the night before, put together an
outfit on your dresser, so that the next morning, all you have to do is put
it on. You can even do a week’s worth of outfits and lay them out so
everyday, it’s as easy to wear a stylish outfit as it would be to just roll
out in your scrubs.
Just pretend you're your own Pinterest and actually SET OUT those outfits you're always pinning...
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In the end, it just takes a few moments of preparation before you walk out the door- and I feel like it is totally worth it. I never want my husband to even THINK that I've "let myself go" since getting married... Plus, you don't want to run into an ex looking like a frumpy mom, am I right?
Any other ideas? Reply to this post and share them! I'd love more thoughts on it!





Ha ha love the 'frumpy mom' picture! This has always been a goal of mine, to not be a frumpy mom, sometimes it's tempting to not put any effort in, but I actually use most of techniques you've listed here, and if I do try, even a little, I feel good when I'm out and about :)
ReplyDeleteYour frumpy mom post made me giggle.
ReplyDeleteNo excuse for looking a total bag in my opinion.
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Going from corporate-office-single-mother-fashionista to frumpy-house-wife-of-six... depressing. This article just reopened the wound.
ReplyDeleteGood ideas but wearing a necklace (or any jewelry) around my baby is a recipe for disaster!
ReplyDeleteHa! That can be so true! Guess it depends on the age of your kids!
ReplyDeleteThanks so much for this tip. I have been using kids as an excuse to lazy and frumpy. I just started wearing a little make-up each day and it changes my outlook and even makes me flirty with the hubby! Next is the clothes!
ReplyDeleteJust know you aren't alone! I think we've all been there to one extent or another.
Deleteoh, you just sealed it for me! I AM a frumpy mom (I knew it already, but now it hurts--lol)... to Anonymous re: jewelry around baby.. I JUST bought myself an awesome necklace (my baby was always trying to eat mine, so I couldn't wear it anymore)... I bought one called "Jellystone Organic" teething necklace, or chewing necklace... It's a large, silicone pendant designed especially for infants to chew on while teething.. they come in many different colors and sell between $15-$20 depending on where you buy it from.. (They also have an adorable owl shaped one too) and I do feel a little more stylish when I wear it.. LOL Hope that helps on the jewelry front :)
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