But.
Let's be honest.
While every stay at home mom loves her children (I'm sure) and wants all good things for them and feels grateful for them and enjoys time off from work and, and, and..... well, it can be tough. Frustrating. Hard. And it can make you feel unappreciated, dumpy, and undervalued. While hard work in an office can result in promotions, raises, and other forms of appreciation, hard work as a stay at home mom will result in great things- but often not seen or appreciated for years.
So.
While I acknowledge the blessing of staying home and the wonder that it is, here are a few tips to help you be happier as a stay at home mama.
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2. Get completely ready BEFORE your kids are up. Whatever stage of life your children are in, make sure that you are up, dressed, hair done, and make-up (if that's your thing!) finished by the time they are up running around. If you don't do it first thing in the morning, it will often not get done at all, or else haphazardly done throughout the day. You will feel worlds different if you can face each day knowing you look your best and it's like sending a signal to yourself at the beginning of the day: I AM worth spending some time on. It is a real challenge sometimes, but fully worth it.
3. Always pursue at LEAST one personal interest. You love your little ones and most of your day revolves around them: changing diapers, giving baths, cleaning your home, making meals, and other incredibly repetitive tasks. In the midst of all of this, find one thing for YOU that YOU enjoy. This is NOT a free pass to neglect your children and focus selfishly on yourself; rather, it is a way to find joy and accomplishments outside of your children so that you can always feel that you, as an individual, have worth. Options? Gardening. Reading. Running. Gourmet cooking. Blogging. Photographing. Swimming. Just pick something you love and budget some time at least once a week for you to do something for you.
4. Get adequate rest. I say adequate because I know that you will not get all the sleep you want until your kids are out of the home. (And maybe not even then) You'll certainly be up late working on projects that can't be done with your children running around and then up again in the morning before they get up- but find some kind of balance.
Have your husband work on that late-night project so you can sleep. Or find a time every day when you can get an hour nap. However you swing things, do not allow yourself to run off of too little sleep. If you do, you will lose your temper far too easily, which will cause you to say/do things with your children that you will regret. You are staying home with your children to give them the best upraising they can get. Make sure it IS the best by giving yourself rest so that you WILL be your best self.
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Do you have other tips for what has helped you find joy in the journey of being a stay at home mom? Share them below so we can all benefit!
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Thank you for sharing. I like number 5, I am not good in baking, but I can give me a huge smile and big hug. :D
ReplyDeleteThanks, Maureen!
DeleteI 100% agree with all of this!!! :)
ReplyDeleteDo crafts with your child/children! Color, paint get outside with chalk even little boys love crafts!
ReplyDeleteTeach your kids. My son's 2yrs (as of a month ago) I set aside 30mins a day to focus on him learning. From abcs to colors speech motor skills I involve my 9month old by singing songs like wheels on the bus and patty cake which my 2yr old does along with me.
I need to do a better job at 5 so thank you for reminding me :) this was a great read :)
Thanks so much! And I love the focusing-on-your-kids. Incredibly important for you AND your babies!
DeleteI am SAHM as well I really enjoyed reading this. I liked #2. I had never thought of getting ready before they are up and am going to start! I have a 2 1/2 year old and a 14 month old so showering with them up is not an option.
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing! Sara
Thanks, Sara. When I try to get showered after my babies wake up (2 years and 5 months).... Yeah, doesn't work so well! ;)
DeleteThank you. I really needed to read this :)
ReplyDeleteThanks, Kelly. That always makes me happy to hear.
DeleteI so needed to read this just now. I have been feeling guilty about desperately needing just a little time for myself, beginning to resent a lot of things where I shouldn't or never would!
ReplyDeleteThankyou xxxx
Anonymous, being a mom is very important, but it doesn't mean that you stop being an individual. There's no reason for an overhaul, but a little time to help yourself improve can go a long way to tempering potential resentment. I'm really glad to hear this helped.
DeleteFound your post via Pinterest. Great read and great tips, thanks for sharing your experience and helping to make other SAHM's have a happier home life. :)
ReplyDeleteJust think as a Home Maker we get to make our own world rather than try to work around or fit into someone else's like at a job or something. Let's make ourselves beautiful happy worlds so we will love living in it and our loved ones will always want to come there to be part of it. The power is all in our hands girls.
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